So, on Saturday, Jason and I took down the front of Landon's crib and put up a toddler rail. He had never tried getting out of his crib or anything, it was more just for the fact that we wanted to begin implementing some of the changes before Baby arrives. So, we did it for nap time, and Landon was mortified. Cried for 3 hours and didn't sleep. So, again, we tried at bedtime and the only way we could get him to fall asleep was if I stayed in the room with him. And this is unusual because he has been in his own room, own crib since Day 1 and has never needed one of us to sleep. Once he was asleep, he was fine, but when he woke up the next morning (nice and early of course), he wouldn't go back to sleep and again, cried and cried. And the cry isn't an angry cry or a frustrated cry, it is a scared "help me" kind of cry. So, today, again, I had to stay with him in order for him to nap and then when he woke up from nap, he began crying immediately. I went in to get him and made a big deal, clapping and saying "Yeah, Landon slept in his big boy bed", but he didn't seem to think it was great. And as I am writing this, he is up there, hysterical, standing at his door and almost not breathing. So, Jason and I are wondering, do we put the crib front back up and he's just not ready for this? Or is this something we need to just push through and he'll eventually be fine with it?? Its so hard because I don't want to push him to something before he's ready, but I also don't want to be going through this with a newborn, so I thought it would be better to do it now. I would appreciate your advice and I know everyone may have a different opinion, but I want to hear them all! My initial reaction is to just keep pushing through it, but I really don't want to traumatize him or anything!! HELP!
Monday, August 10, 2009
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he's still pretty young to do the switch a roo! we tried wiht janae at 18 months, she wasn't sleeping well in her crib so we had nothing to lose. she didn't sleep well in her bed til she turned two so maybe it just matters when t hey are ready. You still have time to do the adjusting thing for number two. I don't know about you but some people do a playpen or bassinet for the first couple of months so you coudl always do that and wait for him to be ready. I have found with my oldest that the easiest way to do a transistion of any kind is to do it when they are ready and willing and when they think they are the ones who decided!! good luck
Hey Kristin, he may just not quite be ready yet. All kiddos are different. Jonah could have slept in a big bed way earlier than Josh, but we kept him in his crib. Joshua loved his crib & is now sleeping in a big boy bed happily. We started talking to him about a big boy bed around 18 months and he would say to us "like crib, no bed." We kept telling him that he would soon be sleeping in a big bed like Jonah's & ours when he got a little bit bigger. As he apporached 2 (which was when we planned to switch) he was coming around to the idea. It took him a week or so but he soon learned how to sleep in his bed. The great thing about waiting until he was 2 is that we could communicate with him so much better & he understood what was going on. I have a couple friends that tried when their kiddos were 18 - 20 months & it didn't really work out, so they went back to the crib, talked about big girl/boy beds & then made the switch at 2...they both had no problems 2nd time around. They grow so much in just a few months & sometimes time is all they need. Don't know if this helps, but the good news is that baby won't be arriving tomorrow & you have some time! Hang in there mama...you'll figure out the best thing to do for your little man!!!!
Hey Kristin
my sister in law put her daughter in a big girl bed before she was two and it worked out eventually. She cried as well for the first while. Some things that she did was put lots of pillows along the rail to make her feel safe and cozy (obviously not by her face or anything). She also gave her juice after she slept in her big girl bed... it was reward that she loved! He may not be ready... but I totally understand you wanting him to get used to it before the baby comes, that was my sister in law's reason too! Good luck! You are a fantastic mommy! You know your boy best!
We switched Caily to a bed before Lexi came, but that was because she was climbing out of her crib. I would have loved to have kept her in the crib longer because sleeping in a big bed brought issues that we are still dealing with. I don't know what you plan on doing with your new little one, but Lexi is still in a pack n play and she is three months, so that would have given us time to transition Caily out of the crib. Whatever you end up doing, I hope that Landon gets back to sleeping well.
... we didn't get our boys out of their crib until just before a new baby came ... usually about 2 months before. And we chose to never take the crib apart, but rather have them go into a new bed. Tias loved having a big, BIG bed ... and we bribed Josiah with his Cars bed ... maybe Landon's just a bit too young? every kid's different - no set of rules work on everyone :-)!
Jacob was in his big boy bed between 14 & 16 months as we wanted him in it before Cole arrived. It was early but he did just fine.
Cole is in his crib for naps but bedtime is in his big boy bed, he loves it. Both beds are in the same room and sometimes at nap time he asks for his big boooy bed and he gets one chance to stay in it. If he gets out, he gets put into his crib.
He may be horrified that you've taken HIS bed apart, maybe you should try him in a different bed so that he knows that HIS bed is now a new bed? That has seemed to work for our boys.
Best of luck with this! xo, *S
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